grown up problem

a guyfriend just confessed that he no longer loved the girl he's been dating for 2 years and that he's interested in another girl whom he's known for 3 months. i asked him what he's planning to do. he said that it'd be unfair to keep his girlfriend in the dark. he's going to tell her the truth today. of course, as a "fixer", i told him that he needed to get his conscience clear before making any decision. interestingly, he asked me what i'd do if i were in the girlfriend's shoe.

"i'd cry" it's a plain and simple answer.

"would you hate the new girl?"

"no, because she isn't wrong. i would probably ask you what your final thoughts are and i would accept your decision with heavy heart. over time, i will be able to forgive you."

i don't know how it's going to turn out, but i hope he won't regret anything by the end of the day.

regrets. all my close pals are facing this struggle right now. regret over taking the previous beau for granted and making that one major crushing mistake. regret over turning down a guy she really fancied and eventually allowing withdrawals to creep in when the guy moved on. regret for prioritizing work over him. it all boils down to the core value of a relationship---to curb loneliness. it's just fascinating how i could connect with friends who are 1/2 a globe away to discuss on the topic of regrets.

i was chatting with a friend who sometimes swooned me by his maturity when i asked him what kind of qualities he's seeking in a girl.

"your qualities are actually close to what i'm looking for." a rather surprising, but pleasant answer.

"i once thought of you too, but too bad we're never in the same city eh?" i joked, but it was indeed an honest statement.

i didn't have any regrets asking that question. at least i knew that we're on the same wavelength.

oh...the mysteries of life. it's like going into an endless tunnel. you don't know when you're going to see the light. regrets never do me any good, so i always shove them away though the pain sometimes inflicts. i'd think about the positive outcomes of my bad decisions and learn to grow up.